An elderly friend once confided in me about difficult times her family went through and how they thought they wouldn't make it. She said, "We're still here." I wrote that on the white board on the fridge as a reminder, and pass it onto you. It's great your sons are on board and you're facing this as a family. That shows maturity on their part. Our youngest once said, "It's good we were poor, it taught us to be more creative." There are character traits only developed from adversity, even though it is painful at the time. Resiliency and understanding are two of them. Your sons are becoming better men.