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@redcatcec We were in the process of adopting two of our foster children when a liberal judge was elected and sworn in. Our two foster sons didn't want to go back to their mother, and she had fled the state to live with her sister in FL, leaving not only them, but their disabled and mentally challenged sister. The sister was sexually assaulted when the father of the youngest boy got drunk and the neighbor came in and committed the crime. The mother NEVER followed the guidelines to get her children back, and had already signed away the rights to the handicapped daughter, as had her husband. Still, she had gotten a decision from the Florida courts saying she could have the custody of her sons back and challenged our state's decision. It was heartbreaking for us when we got the decision in the early part of the second week of December that year saying that "in the Spirit of forgiveness and Christmas, we are granting custody back to the mother.". The sad part was that she got them back, the boys were shocked as were we, and after they got to Florida it wasn't even six months before they in the system again. We were devastated as according to our contract with the state we couldn't go to Florida to try to adopt them without losing our chance to be foster parents. DCS in this state has been in bad shape ever since we were in it and is worse now. They are letting children who have committed violent crimes run rampant and are losing track of them and then not reporting it to the authorities, or aren't feeling or showing any urgency to do so. It's been in the news for the past two months here. We had to get out of the service to DCS because it was becoming not only dangerous, but we watched many foster parents lose everything because of false accusations of abuse from foster children. It was an honor to serve and help others and to see families restored, but it scared us to death when one of our dear friends lost the home, jobs, and cars because of a false accusation of a whipping. Another was reported by a foster child having the child saying the parent had sexually assaulted them...these children had been with other foster children who had learned to play the system. We couldn't face that possibility any longer. We didn't like the way the children were treated, nor the way the foster parents or the workers in the DCS system were overloaded with cases. Thank you for your thanks for our service. We pray for all foster parents and hope that they know what they are getting into and adequately have themselves protected with insurance, legal insurance, etc. Thank you for mentioning those stop-gap programs. All possible help SHOULD be mentioned for people who are interested and need it. Blessings.

AverageJoe

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