I'm wondering if anyone has ever dealt with a partner or spouse who refuses to work. I'm not talking about partners who can't work because they have a disability or they're sick, or about partners who are staying at home to raise children. I'm talking about significant others who straight up refuse to get a job.
I get a ton of letters on the subject. Take this one, for example:
The letter writer's fiance got laid off more than six months earlier and hasn't started searching for a job. He doesn't think it's a problem because they can squeak by on her salary.
I get that losing a job is really hard. But six months is a long time to go without even looking for a job! I'd be extremely frustrated if I were in the letter writer's shoes. I've been there before with an ex, and that was a big reason things didn't work out.
Has anyone ever had any luck convincing a partner who refused to work to get a job? Or is this a situation where the relationship is doomed?