Budgeting isn’t easy. But whether you’re trying to cut spending to save for that new house or you’d like some extra money to put towards your credit card debt, establishing a budget that works for you is essential. Which is why we’ve created the Budgeting Bootcamp experience. The bootcamp is a two-week program that will teach you how to establish a budget from the ground up and then actually stick to it. Every couple of days you’ll receive helpful tips and tricks for creating your own budgets, advice on mistakes to avoid and more. 

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From there, you’ll be able to join the group titled “Budgeting Bootcamp,” where you’ll find a thread for each day of the budgeting bootcamp. This is a place to discuss what you learned, ask questions and share resources. 

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Briana is a Community Strategist at The Penny Hoarder. Her interests include reading up on building communities, LOTR marathons, ocean conservation efforts (such as volunteering), and playing with her puppy Thor. 

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That sounds great.  I have been married for 28 years and my husband has gotten laid off so many times it has been hard to build up any savings.  Plus, we each had daughters from previous marriages and my ex-husband, who was supposed to pay child support, didn't, and my husband responsibly paid $300.00 per month regardless of our money situation.  I worked up until I had our first son, and then I stayed at home.  When he started school, I went back to work.  Eight years later when I had my other son, I became a stay-at-home mom again until Cody started school.  During this time, we had filed for bankruptcy because we couldn't keep up with the bills.  Credit card debt and medical bills were piling up.  My husband cashed in 401k's, I was taking jewelry to pawn it off, and I took a loan against my life insurance policy.  It was terrible.  After the bankruptcy, it was a sigh of relief.  We also caught a break because Countrywide sent us a letter saying they were paying off our second mortgage because of some mistake.  I don't know if it was a government thing, but we weren't arguing.  So, things were going alright.  Until my husband got in a wreck with our car we had like 3 payments left on.  He was fine, thank God.  But Chris and his dad started talking and Chris figured that once in his life he was going to have a newer car.  We argued, oh did we argue.  I just wanted a nice one out of the paper.  A nice one that would not put us in debt.  But no, he bought a $19,000 car.  I was heartbroken.  Not only that, he co-signed for a car with my daughter without asking me and long story short, years later, she is struggling to pay for it.  And a few months later, our son was looking for a truck and my husband told me it was my turn to co-sign with him.  Now in my day, my parents NEVER co-signed anything for us.  I was against it and I told him about it.  Well, my son drove a truck off the lot.  2018, it was repossessed. Our credit rating is in the toilet. We have been late on so many of our different payments it's not funny.  I only worked part-time.  I finally got a full-time job last year that I wasn't at very long.  I found out I had diabetes and I was pretty sick and so I wasn't catching on as fast as they wanted so I was offered an ultimatum.  Either show some improvement over the next two weeks or it could be my job.  So I quit that day.  I have applied so many places and been turned down.  I know it's because of my credit rating.  My husband works full-time, plus he has a hauling business on the side.  It doesn't really make that much money by the time you take out gas money, dump fees, truck repairs, and all of that.  So now we owe back taxes to the federal and state.  The federal since 2014.  We live paycheck-to -paycheck.  There.  I think that is my financial situation all laid out.  I hope it wasn't too much.  It just kinda' explains how I got to where I am.  Have I thought about divorce?  Yes, I filed last year.  Then I dropped it.  Stupid!!  I used to be a miser with money.  Doesn't mix well with someone who doesn't save a dime!!!!  I even opened my own savings account at a different bank.  Once he found out about that he kept asking how much I had in there so we could borrow from that.  Any budgeting advice you can give me would be a plus.  I hope this is the information you wanted....  If not I just gave you an earful of my financial problems, sorry.  I know it's probably beyond saving, but anything you could tell me would be a big help.  Right now I have a 0 balance in my savings account.  Help!

BJLEE posted:

Why can't current email subscribers participate in the bootcamp?

At this time, we're only rolling it out to new newsletter subscribers. But we will absolutely consider others in the future! If you have any ideas, I'd love to hear them =)  

I'm in content and community marketing also, and it's a huge customer service mistake to make a new, permanent offering available only to new members. I guarantee you're going to lose existing subscribers. Starting with me, possibly. You're messaging us that your entire business plan is focused on churning through new subscribers and not providing quality content for the ones you already have. Plus, if you're going to do launch something for new subscribers, why announce it to existing subscribers at all? That makes no sense. Make an offering for your new subscribers that introduces them to the valuable content existing subscribers already enjoy, don't create something completely new for new subscribers only. Sheesh. This is content marketing 101.

 

R Hopkins posted:

I'm in content and community marketing also, and it's a huge customer service mistake to make a new, permanent offering available only to new members. I guarantee you're going to lose existing subscribers. Starting with me, possibly. You're messaging us that your entire business plan is focused on churning through new subscribers and not providing quality content for the ones you already have. Plus, if you're going to do launch something for new subscribers, why announce it to existing subscribers at all? That makes no sense. Make an offering for your new subscribers that introduces them to the valuable content existing subscribers already enjoy, don't create something completely new for new subscribers only. Sheesh. This is content marketing 101.

 

Hi @R Hopkins completely understand where you're coming from! However, this is just a pilot that we're soft-launching to new email subscribers. We're working on another iteration for a wide release. In the meantime, the content is still available to ALL community members in our Budgeting Academy course where you can receive the same kind of content: 

https://www.thepennyhoarder.com/academy/budgeting-101/

I thank you and value your input here! 

laughing broke posted:

That sounds great.  I have been married for 28 years and my husband has gotten laid off so many times it has been hard to build up any savings.  Plus, we each had daughters from previous marriages and my ex-husband, who was supposed to pay child support, didn't, and my husband responsibly paid $300.00 per month regardless of our money situation.  I worked up until I had our first son, and then I stayed at home.  When he started school, I went back to work.  Eight years later when I had my other son, I became a stay-at-home mom again until Cody started school.  During this time, we had filed for bankruptcy because we couldn't keep up with the bills.  Credit card debt and medical bills were piling up.  My husband cashed in 401k's, I was taking jewelry to pawn it off, and I took a loan against my life insurance policy.  It was terrible.  After the bankruptcy, it was a sigh of relief.  We also caught a break because Countrywide sent us a letter saying they were paying off our second mortgage because of some mistake.  I don't know if it was a government thing, but we weren't arguing.  So, things were going alright.  Until my husband got in a wreck with our car we had like 3 payments left on.  He was fine, thank God.  But Chris and his dad started talking and Chris figured that once in his life he was going to have a newer car.  We argued, oh did we argue.  I just wanted a nice one out of the paper.  A nice one that would not put us in debt.  But no, he bought a $19,000 car.  I was heartbroken.  Not only that, he co-signed for a car with my daughter without asking me and long story short, years later, she is struggling to pay for it.  And a few months later, our son was looking for a truck and my husband told me it was my turn to co-sign with him.  Now in my day, my parents NEVER co-signed anything for us.  I was against it and I told him about it.  Well, my son drove a truck off the lot.  2018, it was repossessed. Our credit rating is in the toilet. We have been late on so many of our different payments it's not funny.  I only worked part-time.  I finally got a full-time job last year that I wasn't at very long.  I found out I had diabetes and I was pretty sick and so I wasn't catching on as fast as they wanted so I was offered an ultimatum.  Either show some improvement over the next two weeks or it could be my job.  So I quit that day.  I have applied so many places and been turned down.  I know it's because of my credit rating.  My husband works full-time, plus he has a hauling business on the side.  It doesn't really make that much money by the time you take out gas money, dump fees, truck repairs, and all of that.  So now we owe back taxes to the federal and state.  The federal since 2014.  We live paycheck-to -paycheck.  There.  I think that is my financial situation all laid out.  I hope it wasn't too much.  It just kinda' explains how I got to where I am.  Have I thought about divorce?  Yes, I filed last year.  Then I dropped it.  Stupid!!  I used to be a miser with money.  Doesn't mix well with someone who doesn't save a dime!!!!  I even opened my own savings account at a different bank.  Once he found out about that he kept asking how much I had in there so we could borrow from that.  Any budgeting advice you can give me would be a plus.  I hope this is the information you wanted....  If not I just gave you an earful of my financial problems, sorry.  I know it's probably beyond saving, but anything you could tell me would be a big help.  Right now I have a 0 balance in my savings account.  Help!

Unfortunately, I think that you have a marriage problem that is manifesting itself as a financial one.  You have a husband who wants to spend what he wants when he wants to, with no regard for your (joint) finances and your feelings and stress level.

I would recommend marriage counseling - IF you want to save your marriage.  If not, separate your finances and don't give him access or knowledge of anything you are squirreling away.  Talk to a lawyer who can advise you of the laws in your state and how to protect yourself.

I absolutely agree with Annie B.  Then you can begin to get your finances in order. Your husband has dug a very deep hole, but you can dig out slowly. First and foremost, no co-signing for ANYONE once you get back in the black, EVER!  

Then you can use all the good information on here, like pay yourself first. Start a savings and even if it's only $5 a pay to start, DO IT! As you get things under control, you can raise it. So much good information on here, but you have to either get counseling with your husband or eliminate him from your finances or you'll never be financially secure.

 

 

 

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